In believe that your pain and suffering is not your fault but I believe that it is your responsibility to heal yourself.
“Children are the simplest access to wholeness but parents rob them of that!”
I believe your parents robbed you of your worthiness and your grandparents robbed your parents of that worthiness and so on.
That doesn’t mean you need to play a victim forever.
Because you can take that power back.
Your parents simply didn’t know that their behaviour towards you had its basis in their beliefs about life, love, money etc, which they received from their parents. They thought that was the ultimate truth. All the pain they caused you with their words and actions was not intentional, it was just the projection of their own inside chaos and powerlessness of not knowing how to handle it.
They did not know how to break generations of beliefs and build their own river bed of beliefs, because they were unconscious of those beliefs which were making them unhappy and consequently taking it out on you.
They simply didn’t know how to just accept you as you are, because they did not accept who they were or who they were becoming.
I truly believe that I couldn’t get pregnant for 9 years (9 years of not being able to get pregnant with my ex husband and later with Miran, all the pain, frustration, shame, loneliness, anger, resentment, jealousy inside of me) because I did not believe in my wholeness – my worthiness.
I was trying to get a child who would SAVE ME from the emptiness inside of my which I felt in those years. Of course I did not KNOW THAT but I DO NOW.
So now I truly believe Noa did not come to me for 9 years, because he needed a mom who:
– LOVES herself enough to be mindful of the chaos inside of her and not project that on him
– KNOWS how to love herself, so Noa will know how to love himself and
– is able to love her child as he is!
Oh trust me, I still burst at Noa sometimes, but the magic is that I KNOW THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM – it is the chaos inside of me speaking. It is my Ego reacting to decades of beliefs running in my family which I do not wish to see as the truth anymore.
At that moment Noa’s daddy Miran and I have a rule, that we “step away from the situation” and take a moment for ourselves and see what is really underneath our anger with Noa.
So, my mission/legacy as a coach is to free yourself from yourself and for you to set a standard about love, life, relationships for your child and are an example for your child not with words but actions.
THAT YOU UNDERSTAND THAT YOU ARE THE CAPTAIN/ESSE OF YOUR MIND, FEELINGS AND LIFE every second of your life and you CAN CHOOSE what you want to believe about yourself, your business, your life.
This is why I’ve decided to make my dream of living in Spain a reality, even though my Ego said to me “why are you putting Noa through so much stress of moving to another country, the 3 day road trip, a new environment, getting him away from his grandparents, his nanny, what are you trying to prove, why do you need this posh house on the beach, it is too much money, it is too far away…”
I love and leave my Ego and show him what is on the other side of me following my dream.
There is a human, Noa, who will consciously CHOOSE his life, by knowing he can only control his thoughts and feelings and no one else’s, who will learn not to judge himself and others, who will know how to be kind-er to himself, who will know it is ok to feel all the emotions but not get choked by them, who will not wait for someone to sail his ship out of the safe harbour into the oceans of heart and money abundance!
Lenja Faraguna
Human. Mompreneur. Mindset and modern marcareting coach.
